FEARLESS

The month of September is a great one for my family! I got married on September 3rd and gave birth to my son just 17days later on September 20th. I have been holding both titles now for 4yrs and still in shock about how fast it is going. Both are two major roles that God has blessed me with. Like I always say...it is not easy, but worth it! Reminiscing back to the days when Kendall and I first began our journey as a couple and then parents, I realized that we have come a long way! A lot of ups, downs and lessons learned. Often, women ask "How do you balance it all? Being a wife, having a career and then throwing a child in the mix!" But I've come to realize that it's not about balance. It's about prioritizing and focusing on the growth. Nothing is ever perfect and easy. It takes work and it is important to be willing to change where it is necessary. Since it has been four years, I've decided to name four things I have learned as a wife and four things I have l...

I am sure that everyone can agree that 2020 has be one craaaazy year! With everything going on, we have to adjust to this new way of living. With schools shutting down, parents became teachers and we are now starting another academic school year. I'm not going to lie...when this first happened, I was truly annoyed. How can schools expect working parents to be on top of kids' schoolwork? Obviously after a while, you come to realize that keeping your child home was the best option to keep them safe and healthy. Thank God Kendall and I were able to come up with a schedule and rotate days where someone was home with Mason while the other person was at work.  If you follow my instagram page, you have seen a few things that I have been doing with Mason while home. It is important that he continues to get the education he would have received if he was still going to preschool. I'm sure all parents can agree, it's not easy! If we wanted to be teachers, we would have done that! ...

I am a black woman.  I am strong, intelligent and independent.  But, I also desire to be loved. I am a black woman. I am beautiful, loving and caring.  But, I also want to be treated with respect.  I am a black woman.  I am fearless, a nurturer and selfless. But, I also want to be reminded of how remarkable I am.  I am a black woman.  A woman of color, a hardworking, soft and dreaming woman.  I want to and need to be treated fairly. I want to and need to feel protected and safe. I am a black woman, a black wife, a black mother and want to see my black family succeed!  I am a black woman.  Do my curves, hips, braids and stylish clothes bother you? Does it cause me to be a threat or cause you to disrespect me for lack of better words? Well, tell me. Tell me why Karen gets surgery to look like me? Oh, but its wrong for me to naturally look the way I look? Wrong for my culture to embrace it's own style? When I look in the mirror I see flawle...

Who would have known that your 3yr old son could be your best friend?! Being a mother truly brings so much joy to my heart. Each and every day, I am reminded of the great reward of being someone's mother. Sure, it causes you to be tired, it brings you stress at times and worry, but I would not trade it for anything else! My son has taught me to be patient, he has challenged me to become a better person and work even harder. I am the first example of a woman he sees and I want him to know that we are strong, caring, nurturing and hard working. Being a "boy mom" is so much fun! The energy that Mason brings everyday is so amazing. He definitely keeps me on my toes and keeps me moving even when I don't feel like getting out of bed. Especially since he loves to wake up between 6:30-7am on the weekends. lol It is something about that mother/son bond that is so untouchable. You better not cross me because my son will come for you! lol He always knows when I am in need for ...

Do you feel like giving up sometimes? Just runaway and never have to deal with work, people or things ever again? Yeah, sometimes, I just want to disappear too! Life is rough and isn't supposed to be easy, but you have to keep encouraging yourself to do better. There will always be hurdles that we have to get over and mountains to climb. I like my current job and what I do, but I believe I deserve better and higher pay! Today I took a leap and applied to multiple positions outside of the current government agency I work for. For those who know me, know that I have been working for the same agency since I was 17 yrs. old. So applying elsewhere is a big leap for me! But, it was God who gave me the courage to do so. You have to believe in order to see things happen. But more importantly, remember that Faith without Work is Dead! You have to put in the work, believe that it will happen and it will. Take Fearless for example! I learned a quick lesson last week. I thought I was...

Sometimes we question things in our lives over and over again. “Why this? Why that? But what if....?” But what we SHOULD be doing is trusting God’s plan for our lives. He brings us to places that we may not understand, but know it will work out in the end. Kendall was offered an engineering job in Newport News, VA back in December. This is something we have been constantly praying for, but when it came, I got scared. Kept thinking of those “what if”questions. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to find a job and that we wouldn’t like the new state. Kendall accepted the job and moved to Virginia in January. We planned to be a part for two months. Him there while me and Mason was still home in Baltimore to ensure we had enough transition time. TO ALL MY SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE, I RESPECT YOU EVEN MORE NOW THAN EVER. I always knew women could do it ALL. But Lord knows, I missed my husband. Not only because of the obvious reasons, but he’s a huge help with raising our son and doin...

Self love is very important. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else. I decided this year, I will take better care of myself. With a career, husband and son, it’s very easy to forget to do things you like to do and things for your own personal growth. I decided that I will always have my hair slaying, keep up with my nails and treat myself to new clothes, shoes or something I just personally want every once in a while! I started to work out towards the end of last year and forgot how much I actually love doing it. Now it’s a daily routine. My best friend, Rachel took me to a Zumba class and that is when I had an epiphany! I love to workout, I love to dance and I love to feel good. After giving birth to Mason, I started to feel down about my body. I didn’t like the stretch marks, and couldn’t stand the weight that I gained. I would randomly cry when I feel like I wasn’t where I wanted to be as far as appearance. One day in Zumba class, I almost cried. I re...